I wouldn’t go as far as to call myself an adult, but I definitely know a lot more about life than I did when I was a teenager. If time travel was a thing, and I had access to it, and it wasn’t dangerous, and going back in time didn’t mess up the future, I would have some solid advice to give my teenage self.
Molly – Stop being so mad at your parents. You are their second child, their first daughter. They have no idea what they’re doing. They might seem like they do, but they don’t. They’re trying to do their best to raise you better than their parents raised them, and it’s only natural that they fuck up from time to time. They push you so hard because they want what’s best for you – They want you to have the things they never did. At the same time, don’t let them make you feel guilty. You are your own person and you DO NOT have to agree with everything they say. You can have your own opinions, but for God’s sake, respect theirs too.
Secondly – Be kind. The people you think are ‘uncool’ or ‘weird’ are just different. You don’t have to be their best friend, you just need to understand that they have their own shit going on, and you being dismissive or ignorant towards them is not going to help that. Smile, say hello, ask how they are and listen to their answer – You could have more in common than you think.
Third – Be yourself. Sometimes it’s necessary to change how you act around people (eg. I know you think swearing is natural but people are offended by it. Reign it in from time to time) but don’t ever pretend to be something you’re not. Don’t pretend to like a band because some boy you fancy does. Don’t lie about your age on the internet.
Fourth – Listen in class. Education is the most important thing you can have. It will broaden your horizons and make you more acceptant of people. If you have all the facts, you see both sides of an argument and will stress a lot less over feeling like you need to pick a side.
Fifth – Fuckboys are a thing. If a particular guy only wants to be with you when you’re at a party and he’s drunk, but won’t answer your texts during the week – He’s a fuckboy. Respect yourself. If a guy talks to another girl and admits later it was to make you jealous – He’s a fuckboy. If a guy makes you feel insecure, instead of helping you attain a positive image of yourself- He’s a fuckboy and only cares about himself. If a guy pulls you out of bed and drags you down the stairs because he’s mad – Not only is he a fuckboy, but he’s also an abusive cunt. You do not have to waste your time and energy on boys who treat you like an object. And if your heart hurts because of a break up – I can 100% guarantee you will feel better about it in six months (providing you draw a line under the relationship)
Sixth – How you look does not define you. How you act and what you do is what people will remember. Sure it’s OK to be proud of your appearance, but don’t let it be the centre of your universe. Stop counting calories. This will lead not only to issues that you will spend the rest of your life dealing with, but also decisions which will be the biggest regrets of your life.
Seventh – For the love of God, I know you don’t have much money, but please, please, if you’re going to wear leggings, invest in a pair that you can’t see your pants through.
Eighth – Everything’s gonna be OK.